Are you about to start a family? Are you working and worry on how would you manage your kid and work?
Are you feeling guilty because you would have to leave your child and go to work?
Are you the one who is looking for an answer on whether to work or quit?
We all are in a dilemma, and this situation is faced by most of the women who don’t have family support. Weighing the pros and cons women decide and devise an answer ,just for example, if there is a financial obligation, no matter how much your heart bleeds, you still need to continue your job leaving your child with a home maid or daycare. Or if you are determined to continue your work, you would make sure to be on board.
Four year back, I was in the same situation, and I didn’t know what needs to be done. Well-wishers were advising me “to quit” and “not to quit.” We hired a maid, took a couple of months work from home, my mother came to settle down things. Read almost all websites and journals to seek an answer but all in vain. I guess I tried my level best to stay close to my kid and still working. But, somehow it wasn’t happening.
I used to go to work with a heavy heart and always used to miss my kid. Or if I had been working from home, just sitting in an adjacent room and listening to your kid crying and howling, you need to be stone-hearted to get over it. I was looking for an answer, and I sat the other day during my regular Reiki practice I asked Reiki to provide me with a solution and balance things as it was pretty much chaotic. The answer I got was – Go With The Flow!!
And I decided to QUIT!!
As I was in my Reiki healing session, my heart only portraited me as a mother, and so I had an answer.
While leaving your child does your heart beats faster than normal? Are you anxious about how your kid would be in daycare/ with the maid? Well, thousands of parenting websites and journals would say, that’s natural. Then why do I need to tread in the opposite direction? We are so much used to sail in opposite direction that we never consciously know about it.
Our body at every point signals us, for anything wrong or problematic issues, but we are so engrossed in “maya[Magic]” and luxuries of life that we hardly notice them. Just for, e.g., if your shoulder is paining[unless its a muscular pain] did you ever thought “its because you are taking to too many responsibilities and it could go away once you delegate some.” The very common “a headache” is also a signal that your mind needs rest, but we would take a painkiller and then get busy with our laptops for Facebook or on our smartphone midnight to check WhatsApp message. You just need REST!
Motherhood is an extraordinary thing, and there is a reason why it has been gifted to women.
We should respect it. Separation Anxiety in kids leads to more stress, anger, and frustration. Children are the purest soul, and all they need is lots of love and love. You may have seen or heard in news kids [ current generation] getting angry and frustrated easily and also they are low in confidence, and many kids go into depression. One of the reason is separation from the loved ones.
No matter what, how good your daycare is or how educated your home maid is, the love and affection showered by a mother are incomparable. And it’s child birthright to get it. Just as mother’s milk is like “amrit[sacred nectar]” to your little angel, and so is your love and care..
Mamma… Please be with me always 🙂
The Power is Within YOU!
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Author: Samiksha Seth
Samiksha Seth is a storyteller with over twelve years of industry experience delivering IT solutions in BFSI, Big Data, Blockchain, Fintech and e-commerce domain. She has worked on projects for some of the world’s leading financial companies in India, Europe, and North America.